Failing ForwardPosted Nov 06, 2011 by Pablo Giacopelli

We failed, but in the good providence of God apparent failure often proves a blessing - Robert E. Lee

You might try and change careers, jobs, partners, coaches, and even hobbies yet failure, though it might look different in each of these places, it will still be present in your path more regularly than it probably needs to be. This is because life and its maker are committed to helping you develop yourself so you may discover the purpose of your life and fulfill it, meaning that until you don't learn the lesson contained within your regular failings you wont move on. You see a winner knows how to fail hard and is this very skill that makes him who he is as we heard from Michael Jordan in the video. They are not scared of failing and failing big as they understand that when they do, they are actually growing as they are visiting a place they have not been in before hence the failure. Yet, as they remain here they also know that they will eventually come to the end of this space and as they do they will be able to achieve the "extra" ordinary things others will pay to watch them do as they took the time to learn the very lesson that was available to them in this space.

When you find yourself in a moment of failure you don't find yourself at the end of a result. You instead find yourself in the middle of an opportunity as failure is the richest most fertile ground known to any man. Many of us find ourselves in this ground often, yet very few of us ever draw the benefit from it as we are in hurry to leave it in the name of image and ego. Taking the time to be still so you can discover what you are being shown and taught will mean that you will fail forward instead of failing backwards. This is because when you make the most of this opportunity you progress where as when you deny and attempt to leave it quickly, you actually regress and take a step backwards further into that place that holds you back from discovering all life has and wants to give you.

Like with everything it is important when looking at things to do so from a place of depth and understand what is really going on which normally is far more than what hits us on the face. In this case we need to learn to see the ground of failure as a space in our journey we travel through instead of a place we are stuck in. In other words there is a beginning and an end to it. Seeing it this way means that we understand the process and therefore realise that though we are experiencing failure we are still moving forward instead of being on the side of the road broken down and stuck. Failure does not mean that you lost your momentum, it actually means that you are in a place where you have the potential of adding to it if you take the time to be still, observe, and listen to what is going on around you.

Another important dynamic to bear in mind when we are in this space we call failure is to recognize that our approach and reaction to it will be the consequence of the attitude in our hearts. There are two basic ways to approach this space and that is by being full of expectation or just expectant. The first one is normally powered by a heart that is full of entitlement, fear, and ego whereas the second one is filled with hope, faith, and gratefulness. The reaction we normally have when we are filled with expectation is one that says or thinks, "I don't deserve this…this is not what I worked so hard for…..this is not what I need to happen if I am going to make it….if they have it so should I…this does not need to be happening right now for me…" etc. However if you live expectant then your vocabulary and thoughts will usually be made up of, "today was great I am glad I had the opportunity to learn this….is OK it might happen tomorrow…I am probably not ready yet to experience that…even if that doesn't happen the way I think it should I will still be fine…". Taking the time to listen to yourself speak and think when you find yourself here will mean being able to discover which one of these is part of you and understand what your approach is fueled by and what you can do about it.

Finally it is important to realize that in life we don't have results or outcomes. We instead have lessons and opportunities that are presented to us. The way we view these will be very much what is responsible for what happens to us next time we find ourselves in this space called failure. I encourage you, like Michael Jordan, to keep allowing failure to be part of your journey as this will mean that you are making progress and that there is forward momentum in your life instead of just a bunch of noise. Remember, those that fail is because they take risks and push the boundaries of what has been before. They understand that the biggest risk in life is not talking one and that failure is usually an allied companion to this kind of journey we all want but so few of us ever know.

So next time you fail remember that you are in one of the best places to - Find Answers In Life!

Always for you!

Pablo

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